Composting your darkness: how to stop fearing your fear

The darkness is made darker by our fear of it. When you release the fear of your own darkness, then you are powerful.

If you can sit with your grief, face your shadows with compassion, unpack what ails you and seems to be standing in your way with grace, allow space for your anger and your rage, then you can achieve anything.

It's true that these things don't feel very nice. When we over-identify with them, they can hurt us or cause us to hurt ourselves. But if we can find a space for them, allowing them to move in and out of our awareness without clinging, we can move to a new level of experience. We can see them not as permanent states of being, but as waves of understanding, clearing out the things that no longer serve, showing us where our boundaries are weak, where our well has run dry, how we can work with them in ways that don't have to get mired in fear.

Your shadows are a part of who you are. They are part of the engine room of your becoming, along with everything else that drives you like your passions and your interests. They are in fact the scaffolding that these other things are built from.

So far, so obvious. I'm saying nothing new.

But really sit with this idea for a moment.
Try asking yourself, how can I stop fearing my fear? How can I stop fighting my own darkness?

You may find it a profound reflection.

Stepping onto the other side of that threshold makes us more powerful than we imagine, makes us capable of treating setbacks as learning opportunities, of experiencing self-doubt as temporary weather events that point to a need for rest and reflection rather than an intrinsic truth about our worth. 

Imagine a world where we were capable of integrating this part of our nature rather than projecting it onto each other. Imagine how things might shift if we stopped trying to outsource its impacts, where we left room instead for the dark goddesses within us, for Hekate and the Morrigan, for Durga and Kali.

Where we embraced it as necessary compost for the gardens of our lives.

Imagine a joy built not on a denial of the darkness, but from the nurturing bones of it. 

The darkness is made darker by our fear of it.

As the underworld Goddesses show us, even in the darkest places, there is always light.

Ready to make friends with your shadows? Let’s have a free breakthrough chat and see what’s waiting for you on the other side.